We found an amazing quote from Jonathan Carroll, the author of Outside the Dog Museum. He said:
“You have to be careful when you first fall in love. The running across the fields and into the arms of your lover can only happen later after you are sure that they won’t laugh at you if you trip.”
This is great advice for people who are “falling in love.” Too often, two people feel the first signs of love and rush into it, which can scare the other person away. They may become blinded by “being in love.” They want so badly to be loved and to be in love that they miss important clues about their partner’s true feelings.
We’ve heard it repeatedly in interviews with people who have had long-term successful relationships: start slowly. one-to-one relationship coaching for a select, worldwide clientele of unapologetically selective single, successful, and attractive men and women in search of a compatible life partner.
It’s a well-known saying that “Rome was not built in a day.” The same is true for love. It takes time to develop. It requires patience. You need to carefully run across the fields to find your footing.
Building confidence in a budding relationship takes time and dedication. You may not have ever reached this level of objectivity before. When people fall in love, they don’t lie to one another but often lie to themselves about the situation. Before they can truly share their hearts, they let feelings and emotions take over. They may become blinded by “being in love.” They want so badly to be loved and to be in love that they miss important clues about their partner’s true feelings.
Someone recently sent us a copy of “Letters to My Son,” a beautiful essay by Kent Nerburn. Below is an excerpt of our favorite passage:
“This is where most lovers make a mistake. After so much time without love, many people see love as a necessity. As their new love fades, their love becomes a need. The person who used to generate love is now someone who looks for love. They forget that love is a gift and can only grow by being given away.”
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